Do you have time?
“There’s nothing to see here folks, move it along,” says the police officer to the rubberneckers at the scene of an accident. So too, I warn my readers that what follows probably has nothing useful for you, just some self-reflection about how I’m not where I want to be in learning to make small talk.
I set this goal to make small talk back September 11. I even told myself I would write down one small talk item a day. Which I promptly forgot about. I also set a goal of two 15 minute serious study session in the morning before any play. Which I struggled with, only achieving 15 minutes a day, and within a week, that too became something that slipped my mind.
Pah! I am angry at myself. OK, I failed to do what I promised myself to do, what sounds so logical when Anthony Lauder says it. Pick myself up, dust myself off, try again.
I have established a habit of writing one happy thing a day for #100HappyDays. OK, some times a day late, some times a day early, but I have written 93 days worth now. So I am taking a joyful habit and adding my talking goal to it. Once a day, write something I could use in conversation and work on practicing and using it until it is automatic.
Make it Public
Have the conversation with each Korean explaining what I am trying to do and asking for assistance. Listen to their suggestions. Ask them to nudge me if I slip back into comfortable English instead of trying to challenge myself to express things in Korean.
Benny Lewis talks about mini-missions where you identify what you need to work on the most that week and tackle that with full focus.
I choose what is easy & fun. By taking on tutoring and the KDA Level 2 class, I am suddenly in a panic about not having enough time to complete my work. My mission is to find the time. I will have to face a difficult choice.
The Thunderbolt trail to Mt. Greylock is 2 miles to the summit, but even for seasoned hikers, it is tough.
Benny’s approach is the fast and difficult way. Benny would choose to climb the steep 2 mile Thunderbolt rather than a slow, long trail.